Disappointing others is an unfortunate fact of life for autoimmune patients and this City Girl is no exception. Just last week I had to cancel plans at the last minute to attend a concert with my husband, tickets for which had already been bought. I was grateful when he told me he understood. This has been a bit of a struggle for him.
Because I stayed in, rested and went to bed early, I was feeling much better on Saturday. When my husband suggested I take the day to go shopping and blow off some steam, it occurred to him later that I had disappointed him the day before, and here I was whooping it up all by myself the next day. The truth is, I sat down in every store I visited, took my time and had a nice long lunch break with my latest book club selection. Despite what I thought was a clear explanation for this, he was not thrilled.
The fact is, if I have a lot on my plate and stress enters the picture, I am very likely to develop a respiratory infection rather quickly. I have had to learn to hunker down if I am starting to feel run down and try to avoid further illness. Oftentimes, I am disappointing someone. If you have an autoimmune patient in your life, realize that we do not like to disappoint our employers, family, friends or volunteer commitments. Sometimes, there is just no way around it.