Today, our Writer's Challenge is to blog about a time when we have felt marginalized or stigmatzed by someone because of our health condition and what we did say or would have said to take back control and let them know they were out of line.
Fortunately, this City Girl does not often encounter this type of situation with her psoriasis or psoriatic arthritis. I smile at everyone I meet and am generally cheerful. I typically get the same in return from others. However, when I was heavier, I was mistaken once or twice for an expectant mother.
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Normally blessed/cursed with a quick wit, this City Girl is rarely speechless. Wisdom and good manners have usually managed to keep me in line. Depending upon the situation, I do not have a comeback. I do not like to repay rudeness with ugliness. Most people are not ugly to one another for sport. An honest mistake does not warrant wrath in return. Ugliness for sport also does not warrant or excuse wrath in return.
When a sweet woman offered to let me exit an elevator before her saying "Mamas first", I simply smiled and thanked her. It did hurt my feelings that she assumed I was pregnant by my excess weight and the fit of my dress, but she did not deserve a comeback.
When this same assumption occurred in the past, I simply laughed and declared "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat." My good natured response and laughter put the offender at ease, but also let him know it is not a good idea to make assumptions.
For me, staying calm and being nice is a good thing to do, for I never know what someone else is going through. Think how you would feel if you made this honest mistake and were chastised in return.
Search #HAWMC on Twitter to read the Perfect Comebacks of other e-health activists. Until tomorrow.